Thoughts on Seven Years of Marriage


We celebrated our seventh wedding anniversary recently. Seven years? I know right, I don’t look old enough 😉 It has got me thinking more about marriage, as seven years seems like quite a long time to me (though I know, not long for some).

I’d love to say that our story was one of romance or love at first sight, but to be honest, that isn’t my thing. I am not romantic. At all to be honest. Friends and family couldn’t believe that he was the first one to say he loved me. There must have been a reason I was called the Ice Queen as a teen… It is definitely more of a story of love and perseverance. Lots of perseverance. On both of our parts.

We were introduced through mutual friends at a dance. My friend had asked me if there was anyone I had liked the look of. I had spotted this guy in a red t-shirt and told them about him. My friends said that it might be Mike. Then they said even it wasn’t him, I needed to meet this Mike. That was it. It turned out that is was this famous Mike and it just went from there.

I had a bit of a list of ‘requirements’ for guys that I dated and as I got to know him, he was ticking things off the list. I was rather picky but obviously he fit the bill. He was just the person that teenage me imagined marrying.



Seven years on.

We have had a lot of learning curves (who hasn’t). From renovating our home, to having children – though the former was much more stressful than the latter. Really! But I have found that we complement each other. He is reserved. I am definitely the more talkative and outgoing one (which I never thought I would be). He is good with money, I’m not. He plans and is really methodical and logical. He works incredibly hard. He is so driven an motivated. He aims high. He certainly pushes me to achieve more and be the best person that I can be. He is playful and silly with the kids. He can be quite serious in other walks of life, though, when I am a little more ditzy.

We have our own little things that we don’t always get. He enjoys reading factual books about finance, law or investments – I couldn’t think of anything more boring. I enjoy reading fun, whimsical books and he just does’t get it. He has an inability to just chill and sit. I love a good chill and movie night. We just learn what each other likes, work around it and love each other for it.

We have had our fair share of disagreements and silent treatment moments over the years but through it all we have grown and learnt more about each other. I generally want to just have it out and move on; he will hold a grudge a little more. We have both learnt to compromise and I can see how we resolve problems now, is so much more effective than when we were first married. Choices we (or I or he) have made aren’t always my first choice or what I imagined. But we have to move on together and work it out together.

So after seven years of marriage, I know that he isn’t perfect, and neither am I. But he is the perfect man for me.

Rebecca x



  1. 4th January 2016 / 10:22 am

    Congratulations on seven years of marriage! And what a lovely story and gorgeous wedding pictures 🙂 x
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  2. 4th January 2016 / 11:03 am

    You say you aren’t romantic but the last line is – he is the perfect man for me! I have my 10th year wedding anniversary coming up and can honestly say my husband is my best friend. Here is to lots more years of happy marriage to you both.
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  3. 4th January 2016 / 2:35 pm

    Happy Anniversary!

    Your wedding photos are GORGEOUS.

    I got married to my husband last year so this was an interesting read. 🙂 I love how different a couple can be and yet I think those differences are what makes the relationship a success.

    Here’s to many more happy years for you and the Mr! 🙂 xx
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  4. 4th January 2016 / 5:55 pm

    Aw that’s a lovely post. Huge congratulations on your 7 year anniversary. Your wedding photos are beautiful too. I didn’t like my husband when I first met him – we worked together. Not such a romantic story as yours 😉 I hope 2016 is a good one for you all.xx
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  5. 4th January 2016 / 6:43 pm

    Congratulations – seven years is a long time and so much can happen and we can change so much in that time. Here’s to the next seven! 🙂
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  6. 4th January 2016 / 7:17 pm

    Happy 7th Wedding Anniversary. What a fab story. Like you I am not really a romantic either, my OH is, which really surprises everyone.

    Laura x x x
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  7. 4th January 2016 / 9:24 pm

    Congratulations on your 7th wedding anniversary. All the best for 2016
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  8. 4th January 2016 / 9:26 pm

    Ah congratulations! You looked beautiful on your wedding day and very happy

  9. 4th January 2016 / 10:17 pm

    Congratulations on your wedding anniversary. I hope you celebrated in style. Your wedding photos are stunning. You both look so happy. And I love this post, giving a little insight into your relationship. You sound very similar to Mr H and I, in many ways. I am more outgoing and he is more reserved and he is definitely the manager of money in our household. But we complement each other well. We fill in each other’s gaps and that is obviously what you and your lovely husband do for each other. Hugs Lucy xxxx
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  10. 5th January 2016 / 12:53 pm

    Such a lovely post. I think some people think marriage is easy but it takes work and there are downs as well as ups. Congratulations xx
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  11. 7th January 2016 / 2:11 pm

    Aww as much as everyone loves the fairy tale this is the kind of love story I like to read! It’s real and that is just lovely. Congratulations on 7 years all the best for you and your family xxx
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  12. 7th January 2016 / 8:14 pm

    Ahhh you guys sound similar my husband and I. We have only been married a year but been to cyber nearly 10. I’m definitely the louder one and he’s good with money, although he doesn’t read financial books! Here’s to the next happy 7 years for you both 🙂 x
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