Probably not something that you hear everyday but I have two children and I have never been in labour.
It all started with my first child Max and at a few days overdue, I went to have my normal midwife check, hoping to see if something would get started / if I was dilated any. There were no midwives available that day at my GP surgery so after a few
angry tearful phone calls, both my mum and hubs had persuaded me that as I was overdue, I should go for a check up at the hospital.
They went through the usual checks and then the check to listen for the baby came along. I was oblivious to what was going on really and just sat and read a magazine as they said they’d keep me on the monitor for a little bit longer. And a little bit longer. And a little bit longer.
Then they explained to me that the heartbeat was really erratic and dropped significantly so they were going to rush me in for an emergency C-section. Hubs hopped on a train back from work and as soon as he arrived I was rushed in.
Through lots of prayers and a fabulous NHS medical team, Max came into the world safe and healthy that evening, weighing 9lbs exactly, and I’m so grateful that I went to the hospital that day. I can’t bear to think about what might have happened if I hadn’t.
When I was getting ready for my second child’s birth two years later, I just presumed I’d go for a VBAC (I don’t know why but I hate that term). Everyone said that it looked that things would be well and safe to do and that I had healed well from the previous section, so I thought that I’d give it a go. Anyway, fast forward to the last few weeks of pregnancy and I encountered several different problems including a reduction in amniotic fluid. As a result, to avoid losing more of the fluid, they would only let me go overdue by 7 days and I was scheduled in for what the consultant put as an induction or a C-section, as they thought the baby would be quite a large size so just had to see how things went.
When I got to the hospital the morning of the induction, more checks took place, had another sweep and they consultant told me that they would recommend me to have a C-section as her head was in an odd position and basically stuck. So, it was an elective section, in that it wasn’t an emergency, but it was recommended for me.
A few hours later, and lots of trouble getting Chloe’s head out, she was born at 8lbs12oz, ding healthy and well. As it turns out though, when I was in the recovery room, the surgeon came into me and said that externally my scar from Max’s birth, looked neat and healed but internally it really wasn’t. As a result, if I had chosen a natural birth, it could have caused a lot of damage to my scar / womb and most likely ended up in a section anyway.
I have been told that for future births I will have to have caesareans, so labour and contractions, is something that I will never experience. What I will experience though is pregnancy and bringing my babies into the world, with lots of love. I know a lot of people think that if you have a C-section you’re not a ‘proper’ mum as you haven’t actually given birth but in my case, as with many others, it would have caused a lot more damage if I had given birth the natural way. It could have caused so much more damage to my babies and I, so I’m proud of the way I had my babies, and proud to have two healthy, happy, gorgeous children.