A lot of my friends who are about to get married ask me for advice on how to plan everything without turning into bridezilla! They always comment on how relaxed I was in the lead up to the big day. I’m not going to lie; there were times when I was pretty stressed out. However, I did a good job of putting on a brave face, but more importantly, I came up with a few ways to make the whole process more relaxing, and enjoyable! Having just celebrated our sixth wedding anniversary, I thought a wedding themed post would be a great idea. I can reminisce while trying to help any brides-to-be out there who are feeling a bit overwhelmed.
- Get organised. Unfortunately, there is no way around it. You are going to need a diary and a comprehensive to-do list in order to stay on top of all the decisions you need to make and elements of the wedding you must research, hire and pay for. Trust me, it’s worth sitting down for a couple of hours one day and making a mega plan of action. It will definitely help to relieve some of that stress!
- Prioritise. I know it can be tempting to do all the fun things on your list first, but you should prioritise the most important elements. If you leave them too late, you could risk missing out on what you want.
- Use your idle time wisely. I had a lot of other things going on in life when I was planning my wedding, so I know what it’s like to feel pressed for time, even when you have a whole year! My advice to busy brides would be to use any spare time you do have to do at least one thing from your list. For example, if you’re watching TV after a long day at work, have a look for wedding invitations or favours on your phone or tablet. Or, use your daily train or bus commute to work to flick through a wedding mag for theme, colour and style inspiration. By doing your planning in bite size chunks like this, it won’t feel like such an epic task.
- Ask your loved ones for help. That’s what they are there for. I am always happy to help out a relative or friend when they are planning for a wedding, and I’m sure your loved ones will be too. Delegating small tasks on your wedding to-do list will free up more of your time so you can concentrate on the bigger tasks, like finding the perfect dress!
- Schedule “days off”. At times wedding planning can feel like a full-time job, so for the sake of your sanity make sure you plan for a day off here and there. Just allow yourself to switch off from anything wedding related and enjoy not having to think about anything.
My last pearl of wisdom for stressed out brides is to enjoy yourself! It is a demanding time, but it honestly goes so quickly so do savour it. Once it’s all over, I bet you will miss it.