I love being a parent, love being a mother, but somewhere along the way I think I lost myself a bit. Endless nappy changes and sleep deprived days meant taking little time for myself. Don’t get me wrong, it is totally fine by me and completely worth it. But I think after the early stages with a baby, I needed to get out of a sweat-pant, tied up hair rut and as I have more time for myself, make sure that I use that time wisely to develop myself and get back to feeling ‘normal’ (if there is such a thing). Here is what I have done to help me:
~ Setting Goals
Rather than just sitting an telling myself that I’d love to shift a few pounds and feel stronger, as I had been doing for months and months, I chose to set goals to work towards. That way, I had a bit more motivation to push myself and work harder. I have a busy time coming up over the next two weeks with my first ever Triathlon one weekend (eeek) and then the following weekend I will be doing a 5k colour run. They are both things that I have wanted to do for a long time and soon I will be able to tick them off as done. I have enjoyed the training and taking that alone time to go for a run or a swim, has really helped me too. Physically writing down the goals helps too I think – need to work on my ’30 Before 30′ list soon!
~ Sweat Pants? Hell No!
For me, I have decided that unless I am exercising or going to the gym, then I shouldn’t be wearing sweat pants or jogging bottoms. It takes just the same amount of time to put on my skinny jeans and I feel a heck of a lot better and less slobbish when I don’t have them on. Make sense? It might be just me!
~ Change Something
Being able to change the things I can change about myself has really helped me feel better too, in the short term anyway. Exercising and weight loss don’t show results instantly, so in the short term, changing things about my hair or make up, definitely helped me to feel different and more confident. I had wanted to have candy floss pink hair for a while, so my sister just said she would do it for me. I just went with half a head to start with but I loved it – completely freshened up my look. When I get brave enough I might go for a whole head of it!
~ Using Your Strengths
Being at home with the children can often mean lots of tidying, wiping mess, playing games, clearing up toys. But if you work to your strengths to teach your children each day, you keep your mind active and your children will learn things too. My children definitely know about colour coordination, organisation and the best ways to clean things – just call me Monica haha.
What do you find helps you feel better about yourself?