All sorts really, but particularly when you have a baby.
It’s annoying to say but it is one of those ‘have to have done it’ to understand fully quite how things change.
I knew all that was going on in the world of celebrities and reality TV, up to date on current affairs and well acquainted in ‘the arts’. Now the only arts I’m involved in is finger painting and the extent of my celebrity knowledge is who is the new cBeebies cast member.
One of the major things I have found to change though is time and how I spend it.
When you have young kids, a typical day can include, but is not limited to, providing constant attention from the second you wake up (or are woken up) and get them out of bed, to getting them breakfast and then cleaned and dressed. The attention then goes to ensuring they are kept out of harm’s way; to answering their cries or questions, to keeping them from destroying books at the library or emptying shelves at the supermarket. The attention then turns to being one step ahead so they don’t get too hungry, tired or bored.
Basically it is needing 40 minutes to do what would normally take 10.
It is being constantly aware and watching, constant use of your voice, constantly putting the needs of your child’s above anything else. It’s doing all this, whilst teaching virtually everything. You teach your children to speak, how to be well mannered, to be safe, to be good, developing creativity and empathy.
I use to be on top of everything. Organising all sorts, meeting up with friends but lately I’m all on if I even remember to text a friend back. I mean, I usually reply but it is usually at least 48 hours later. Why is this how I spend my time now?
Being a parent is a choice, yes. And a most wonderful joy. But in my opinion, when you have spent all day, every day, parenting, as much of a joy as it is, that when you get 10 minutes to yourself, you just want to be alone for a little rest and alone with your thoughts, to make some mental plans or figure something out. Quite often I’d rather be doing that instead of messaging or calling a friend.
So sorry, friends. I am a bit MIA. I hope you can understand why, because it probably won’t be changing for a while.