… that is the question.
My not so little man will shortly be turning two and so the question that has come up a number of times, is do we throw him a party or do we not throw him a party?
When I didn’t have children I thought the idea of a birthday party for babies and toddlers was ridiculous. What on earth would they remember? I always used to say that i would just wrap up the toys they already have or give them nappies for Christmas (harsh, no?). Anyway, since having Max things obviously changed. Then his first birthday approached and the husband and I put a lot of thought into what we should do to celebrate and the idea of a party for him sounded more and more appealing.
In the end, we decided that it was a bit pointless for a one year old and we just had a special weekend with grandparents, aunties, uncles and cousins, visiting a few places and of course having cake, presents and a birthday tea. I was very happy with what we did for him and thought it was totally appropriate for his age. One of the things we did was go to a soft play and he loved it – especially having his cousin with him and grandparents playing with him too. I just thought, can’t even walk yet, he doesn’t really need a birthday party.
Am I being a grumpy mum? Do you think that all children should have parties, whatever age?
I grew up with birthday parties every year but they started from when we were school age so we had lots of friends to invite and we can have a bit of a say in what we did (swimming party, soft play, sleepover etc). I guess there is the element of cost too, though I know there are parties that don’t have to be too expensive, but for us, we found that for a one year old (and quite possibly two year old), justifying the cost was quite hard. It’s not that we don’t want to celebrate his birthday, just don’t feel it’s necessary for a full on invites, party bags, hiring out somewhere type of thing.
There are some fabulous ideas on Pinterest and other blogs about birthday party themes and I do love planning a good party, but for now, for us, I think the proper ‘parties’ will wait for a few years.